Make a Wonderful First Impression
First impressions are Priceless. Just remember first impression is the last impression. So remember that first impressions actually grow before your first date, and most likely by phone.
May you have a long conversation over phone but talking on the phone is a tricky dating stage is very sensitive. So many first date never happen, because your potential mate had a negative “pre-first-impression” of you on the phone.
Don’t be afraid. Here are some suggestion that would help you much to make your first date successful.
Enjoy Your Phone Conversation. Use a cheerful voice, even if something the other person says annoys you or you’ve had a bad day.
Don’t be too formal. If the other person says something vague such as “How are you?” remember that they are not inquiring about your health or your mood. You may say, “I’m great! I just returned from an exhilarating run in Central Park with my best friend from college.”
What does that say about you? It says you are fitness oriented (you run), you’re the type of person who has sustainable relationships (you’ve maintained a friend for years since college), and you’re an energetic, positive person (“I’m great!”).
Don’ ask too much question to know about the other person. Getting other people to talk about themselves is not the same thing as peppering them with frequent or mundane questions. There are two elements here: quantity and quality. Don’t ask more than one question per minute (inject comments and reflections in between questions, make the flow more organic) and don’t grill with boring questions, even if they asked you a boring question first (avoid: How are you? What are you doing? How was work? Was the traffic bad?).
Discuss some funny topics. Try to be fun and spark some banter. Pick a neutral, third-party topic, and ask a question about it. For example, “Hey, did you happen to see David Letterman last night? He did the Top Ten things overheard waiting in line to see ‘Avatar’.
Let the other person feel relaxed and confident by acting happy that they called and giving positive feedback on their conversation skills, even if their phone skills aren’t great (women, take note: The initially shy or awkward guys usually make better husbands in the long run than the instantly suave, charismatic ones!). For example, say, “I had a rough day at work, but your call cheered me up!” or “Oh, that’s an interesting question…”
If you think your conversation getting lengthy then end the conversation quickly showing some good excuse rather than sounding bored. For example, “Oh, I just realized it’s 9 p.m. and I didn’t call my grandma yet to wish her happy birthday today! So sorry about that, I was really enjoying our conversation. But good luck on that big presentation tomorrow, and I hope to talk to you soon!”
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